Balancing the Bad Boy and the Nice Guy
A woman is most attracted to the man who brings out her inner slut.
Bad Boys do it, while Nice Guys don’t even know she has an inner slut.
The secret is two-part:
1) Manifest the good traits of the Bad Boy, while avoiding his bad traits.
2) Manifest the good traits of the Nice Guy, while avoiding his bad traits.
Bad Boys give her exciting sex. He is dominant, he talks dirty to her, he makes her do things she is too inhibited to do, and she loves it!
The sex is awesome. It makes her feel sexual .
It is extremely exciting for a woman to experience these intense sexual feelings.
However, he is a self-absorbed jerk who cheats on her.
She does not feel appreciated or special.
Bad Boys are masculine.
The feminine in a woman is attracted to the masculine in a man, and with a Bad Boy, it is extreme. It is this contrast that is so alluring to a woman. It makes her feel sexy and feminine.
However, Bad Boys are totally incapable of emotional intimacy, something that she needs to have.
Bad Boys lead an exciting life. They are daring and live on the edge. However, Bad Boys are reckless.
Bad Boys are mysterious.
They have a dark side that women are endlessly curious to know. This is alluring for her. However, Bad Boys are secretive, and she never can really trust him.
Women are attracted to Bad Boys because it is the Bad Boy that brings out her inner slut.
She often becomes addicted to him because the sex is so good and she feels so very sexual. She will try in vain to tame him, but it is fruitless. In an emotional breakup, she finally leaves him for good. At least the high self-esteem woman finally leaves him for good.
Nice Guys are respectful and loyal. She feels special and appreciated. However, Nice Guys are too inhibited to be dominant or talk dirty to her. She does not feel sexual.
Some Nice Guys are capable of emotional intimacy, which she has to have. Some are not capable of it. However, Nice Guys do not exude masculinity.
Thus she does not feel feminine and sexy.
Nice Guys are very safe and calculated. However, they are BORING.
Nice Guys are open and honest, and she feels that she can trust him. However, they are not at all intriguing.
Women like the Nice Guys for all his good traits; however, he does not bring out her inner slut.
She cares for him but will go sleep with the Bad Boy.
She will try to help him to be exciting in bed, but it is fruitless. In an emotional breakup (for the Nice Guy), she finally leaves him for good. At least the sexual woman finally leaves him for good.
This is how many men come to find my work.
You have to be a Nice Guy at sometimes, and you have to be a Bad Boy at other times. There is a time and place for everything.
This is the key balance that can be so difficult to strike.
Let me give you a very simple rule to follow:
1) Be a Bad Boy for everything sexual.
2) Be a Nice Guy for everything else.
This is highly simplified, but it is a general rule to get started by.
Give her exciting sex. Be dominant, talk dirty to her, and make her do things she is too inhibited to do. Make the sex awesome. Make her feel sexual .
You don’t need to be a jerk to do this.
Outside of the bedroom, outside the sexual context, treat her with respect.
Be masculine. Exude masculinity. Make her feel sexy and feminine. You don’t need tattoos on rippling deltoids to do this.
At the same time, develop a deep, emotional connection with her.
Be a little bit mysterious. Let her learn some things about you on her own. You don’t have to be secretive to do this. At the same time, be trustworthy.
Make the sex so good that she feels very sexual. Be secure in yourself, stand your own ground, maintain yourself, gently lead her with a firm hand to let her be the slut that she loves to be. Outside of the bedroom, treat her like the lady that she is.