Today I want to talk about something so many men struggle with…
I knew a guy named Ben, who would spent tons of money on dates… bought drinks for women… and had a good career… all because he wanted to attract the kind of woman he wanted in the way he wanted without doing anything weird, uncomfortable or embarrassing.
He always felt like he was on the verge of humiliation, though… every time he’d go up to a woman, he had a nagging fear of being rejected and publicly shamed…
The worst part of it was when he would think he was getting somewhere with a woman… they’d go on some dates or he’d meet a woman he really found attractive and wanted to sleep with…
And she’s end up stringing him along… teasing him with the idea of hooking up with him but when it came down to it… completely rejecting him.
I remember when Ben came to me, frustrated of failing time and time again… sick and tired of hearing the same old, “sorry… I don’t want to do this…”
In short: The key was that Ben didn’t know what made a woman say yes or no to sleeping with a guy.
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