Yeah, I know, it’s a word that makes some guys recoil in fear.
“I don’t have that” they think. And they think they never will.
But chill out a sec. It’s not as impossible as you’d think…
When women are asked to describe qualities they want in men, confidence is always near the top of the list. In fact, it’s probably at the top.
But what does it really mean to be “confident”?
Confidence comes down to having the belief that you will be able to handle ANYTHING that comes your way.
No matter what happens, you’ll deal with it.
Confidence is important to women because it helps them to feel SAFE.
If a woman is with a guy who communicates that he can handle anything life can throw at him, she doesn’t have to worry about it.
This allows a woman to relax and take a more feminine role in the interaction.
Confidence begins with positive self-talk.
Confident people don’t beat themselves up when they make mistakes, or focus on past failures.
Instead they keep their thoughts positive and productive.
If a girl isn’t interested in you when you approach her, there’s no point in being upset, instead focus on how you’ve now freed up your time to meet a girl who will like you.
ALWAYS remember to ask yourself ” What is good about this situation?”, “What can I learn from this?”, and ” What is the most fun thing I can do right now?”.
Confident people aren’t afraid to get rejected.
You have to demonstrate to women that whether or not they like you has no bearing on your confidence.
You have to recognize that rejection is a part of the game.
The best guys I’ve ever met with women get rejected. A LOT.
You will never be able to completely eliminate the numbers game element of approaching strangers. The more you get rejected, the more you will get laid.
Simple as that.
Confidence is one of the KEY elements that turns would-be FLAKES into dates. Here are the others…
Confident people have confident body language.
There is a distinct link between physiology and emotional states.
Imagine a depressed person. What does their body language look like?
If you’re like most people you probably imagined a guy or girl with slumped shoulders, a distressed, nervous look on their face and even shallow breathing.
Now imagine a person who is confident. What do you see?
Again most people imagine someone with good posture, a beaming smile, slow deliberate movements, good eye contact etc…
Here’s three things you can do right away to make your body language more confident.
1. Smile. The more people will perceive you as confident.
2. Stand up straight. Imagine there is an imaginary string pulling your chest up toward the sky. Keep your shoulders back and your stomach in.
3. Move slowly. The slower and more deliberate you make your movements the more confidently you will come across.
Confident people are not afraid to share things about themselves.
P.S. Confidence also feeds off of results. The better your successes, the more memories you have to draw on.
Here’s how to maximise your results from the numbers game and start getting the successes you want.