Today, we’re gonna be talking about something important.
Whenever you see a guy that most guys consider “alpha” or good with women, he’s probably considered this way because instead of investing in them, they’re investing in HIM.
This is the exact opposite of what 99% of relations between men and women are like. That’s why he stands out.
Today, we’re going to do a quick break down as to why, and explain the basics of Investment.
Investment is one of the most POWERFUL psychological factors at play when dealing with other people. You can read more about investment in Dr Robert Cialdini’s seminal book on Social Psychology “Influence.”
Investment for PICKUP will be defined as follows:
“A devoting, using, or giving of time, talent, or emotional energy by a woman for the purpose of interacting with you.”
In other words, she likes you so she spends a lot of effort to hang out with you.
Here’s a few easy ways to get women to invest in the interaction with you:
The more intimate of a level of detail about her life a woman reveals to you and accepts you revealing to her, the more invested she will be in the interaction.
This means prioritizing your genuine emotional connection is a really, really good idea.
2) Qualifying herself.
The more a girl works to explain herself to you and to win you over, the more invested she becomes.
The easiest way to do this is to have strong boundaries.
The more time a woman spends around you, the more invested she becomes.
This actually goes both ways.
If you can get a woman to buy you a cheap drink or pay for the cab back to your place, she will become more invested.
Don’t think you have to pay for everything. After all, why would you?
Investment is truly the link between getting attraction and making a woman feel compelled to see you again. So be sure to look for opportunities to increase it the next time you get attraction.
P.S. The level of investment you receive from women directly relates to your level of confidence.
This is because your confidence naturally makes you interact with women in the right non-needy way.