You might feel bad wanting to do something that you know doesn’t serve you well… like pursuing the ladies… instead of allowing them to pursue you. 🙂
In Rick Warren’s book, “The Purpose Driven Life,” there is this outline
If you’re feeling bad about being tempted to do something you’re not supposed to do like… reach out to her, get back into that bad relationship or simply pursue again, you are not alone.
The road to an extraordinary life is filled with roadblocks.
Many of you are afraid and ashamed by being tempted, feeling guilty that you aren’t BEYOND temptation.
Basically, you think that feeling tempted is a bad thing, that it shows weakness.
It’s actually an opportunity for you to grow.
Here’s what I mean:
Every time you choose to NOT do something, you are growing in character.
In fact, you will grow the MOST when you are tempted.
Character development always involves a choice, and temptation provides
Think about it this way…
It takes no character to NOT pursue chicks who are pursuing YOU.
You can’t claim to be strong with chicks if you’ve never been tempted to be weak with them.
Integrity is built by defeating the temptation.
Every time you defeat it, you become more powerful.
Temptation always follows the same path:
“I need it now! It’ll be great and make me feel better.”
“Is it really wrong? Was it really meant for
another time, another type of guy or some other particular situation? Isn’t it good to be happy?”
“I can get away with it. No one will ever know. It’ll solve my problem. Besides, everyone else is doing it. It’s only a little reaching out.” But a little reaching out is like being a little pregnant…
What began as an idea morphs into behavior. You give in to whatever got your attention. You believe the lies your ego tells you and fall into the trap.
How do you defeat it?
– Refuse to be intimidated
Temptation is a sign that your ego is fighting for survival. You can’t keep your ego from suggesting thoughts, but you can choose not to dwell or act on them. Your ego will do anything to save itself.
– Recognize your pattern of temptation
There are going to be certain situations where you’re more vulnerable than others. It may be when you’re tired, lonely, bored, depressed or under stress.
It may be when you’ve been hurt or angry or worried, or even after a big success. Identify your particular pattern of temptation and prepare for these situations.
– Request help
You need support in times of temptation, so reach out to friends or someone
– Refocus your attention
Temptation begins by capturing your attention. What gets your attention arouses your emotions. Then your emotions activate your behavior, and you act on what you felt.
Since it always begins with a thought, the quickest way to neutralize its allure is to turn your attention to something else.
Don’t fight the thought, just change the channel of your mind and get interested in another idea.
– Reveal your struggle to others
Join a support group or form your own.
– Believe… and resist your ego
Accept what I tell you as the truth.
If you are a believer, your ego can’t force you to do anything.
It can only suggest.
Don’t argue with it.
Don’t say, “I’m not going to reach out.”
Instead say, “I’m on the right path.”
You can’t bluff your ego with logic or opinion either, but you CAN use the one weapon that it fears most…
You already have enough power within you to defeat any temptation that comes your way.
Temptation doesn’t exist outside of you.
The truth is that it always begins within you.
The battle is won or lost in your mind first.
This was deep.
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