Feisty Women – and Men Who love Them

I thought it would be interesting to give you a different point of view this time… to take you behind the scenes and show you what it’s like for a woman when she’s looking for a man.

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The Key To Success With Women Is Inside YOU

Newsflash: The secret reason that some men get more women than they can possibly handle is something that YOU already possess.

That’s right… the secret of succeeding with women is something that’s already inside of you (and inside every man reading this right now). In fact, every man is BORN with it.

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On Being A Man…

To start with, I have something important to tell you. It’s simply this:

Your Suspicions Are CORRECT: Women Really ARE Crazy
I know, profound. You can write me later and tell me how this new revelation has changed your life. But please calm down, collect yourself, and let me explain.

Why do I say that women are crazy? Well, because they are.

But seriously… it’s because women do something that seems crazy (especially if you’re a man).

Women like to say one thing, but when the time comes around to actually act, they do something totally different.

I could go into an essay on why this is, but for the purposes of this discussion, the most important reason has to do with emotions.

Women tend to say what they think when they’re asked a question. But they tend to act on their emotions when an actual situation presents itself.

Here’s an example: You meet a woman, and get her number. You call her up. She agrees to meet you the next day for a cup of coffee. The next day comes around, and she doesn’t show up. You call her. Something came up, and she just couldn’t make it.

Ever been there? What happened? And doesn’t it annoy you that women always seem to do this? Me too…

Well, what happened is when you were talking to her on the phone, coffee the next day sounded fine. But when the next day showed up, something else that was more interesting came up, and she didn’t feel like meeting you anymore. Or maybe she just decided that she didn’t feel like meeting you when she woke up the next day. Whatever.

Bottom line:

When A Woman Loses Interest In You, It’s YOUR Fault… Not Hers
Of course, if you’re a man, you hear something like this and say, “She lied. She said she would be there, and she didn’t show up. She’s a liar.” Or you say, “Women who do this lack integrity.” Or even, “Women are so flaky.”

And, of course, all of these are true.

Just kidding again. Well, I’m not kidding 100%, but I’m kidding somewhat.

The point that I’m trying to make here is that when a woman says one thing, then does another, she sees that as being perfectly OK, because she’s just following her feelings. But from a man’s point of view, if a woman says one thing, then does another, she’s either a liar, being flaky, or doesn’t have integrity.

Here’s the point:

Women Aren’t Going To Change How They Act, So YOU Have To
Guys are basically left with two main options in a situation like this one:

Keep banging our heads against the wall and expecting women to change, and start showing up when they say they will.
Learn how to make women feel like they want to actually show up for the meeting, so when they wake up the next day, they show up.
Get it? Good. Now let’s talk about the real topic of this newsletter…

What Women Look For In A Man
Of course, in my usual style, I’m going to put an interesting twist on this concept. I’m going to argue that women will say that they look for one thing, but they actually respond to something completely different.

All guys know that women seem to be naturally attracted to things like fame, wealth, Brad-Pitt- handsomeness, height, etc. But I’ve now realized something that is actually pretty profound when you really get it.

I now believe that women don’t know what they are actually responding to.

In other words, these things like money and fame trigger EMOTIONS inside of women. And if you’re not rich or famous or naturally handsome, you can get the same kinds of responses from women if you learn how to trigger the same emotions.

So, in the end, what women are really looking for is a man who triggers their attraction.

Naturally, a woman will never SAY this to you. If you ask a woman what she’s looking for, she’ll say “I’m looking for a nice, honest guy who is successful and cute.” But if she actually meets this guy, and he just happens to be a wussy who acts needy and clingy, then she’s not going to be into him.

In this case, she won’t respond to the guy that she’s looking for by being attracted to him. And it won’t work out.

On the other hand, if this same woman meets a guy who isn’t what she thinks that she’s looking for, but he triggers her attraction emotion, then it’s all over. It doesn’t matter if he’s rich or handsome, because he’s done something that trumps these things.

It has taken me a long time to actually get to the point where I believe this at a deep level and the reason I believe it is this:

I’ve Never Been The Type Of Guy That Women Approach
That means I have friends that are tall and handsome… and when we go out, women start conversations with them. And before I learned what I know now, women never felt that powerful, gut level attraction for me that they do for my taller, handsome friends.

But now, now that I know how to use my BODY LANGUAGE and other communication to trigger the emotions in a woman, it’s completely different.

I get responses from women that I actually considered impossible before.

And it’s not because I grew 5 inches or became more handsome. It’s because I KNOW SOMETHING that most guys just don’t know.

As you’ve read in these newsletters, there are certain techniques, like being Cocky & Funny, teasing women, never acting like a Wussy, etc. that will help you be successful as well.

Use them. Use what you learn. Don’t let anyone tell you any different.

And, if you’re reading this right now, and you’re saying to yourself, “Ok, it’s time that I stopped wasting time screwing around, and I got my butt in gear and learned how to meet women,” then you need to do yourself a huge favor.

You need to take action, and start watching my Advanced Dating Techniques program instantly online.

You see, it took me about five years to find, test, and develop the concepts that I teach in this program… and I guarantee that it will forever change the way you view the topic of women and dating.

More importantly, it will help you walk out your front door, and meet more attractive women starting immediately.

And I’m not kidding. When you get it, you’ll be stunned. You’ll probably lock yourself in your house for three days and listen to the whole thing.

But when you finally unlock your door, and walk back out into the world, your interactions with women will be VERY different.

I think I’ve said enough. Go read all about it here:

Advanced Dating Techniques

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I’ll talk to you again soon.

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Approaching Women

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Yesterday I talked about the importance of Dominance and Leadership.

That inspired me to revisit my thoughts on the BDSM community where DOM/sub is played out to the extreme.

As you know, I have always had some reservations about the BDSM community, but I couldn’t quite put my finger on it.

Now I think I have. At least one part of it.

The problem with the BDSM community is that it’s all about the costumes and props and scenes; the “accouterments.”

It’s not actually about sexuality.

The sexuality is played out on the accouterments, away from the real source of sexuality.

And therefore the players fetishize the accouterments of BDSM.

Why do they do that? Because the sexuality is “too close” for the players. And here’s what I mean by that…

True sexuality requires that one’s very core become vulnerable.

That’s what is missing in the BDSM community.

In the BDSM community, the threat is not about a vulnerability of one’s true self; instead, the threat plays out as vulnerability to one’s physical safety. And there’s nothing “truly sexual” about that.

To compensate, the threat to physical safety may at times go to extremes.

And by definition, all of the above applies to the fetish community as well. The leather and rubber become the sexuality.

BDSM also takes away some of the spontaneity. There’s nothing spontaneous about a collection of accouterments laid out before a woman.

This places some of the responsibility of sexuality on the woman – for her to continue, she by default agrees up-front to everything that every accoutrement could possibly be used for.

A Masterful-Lover takes care to leverage as much spontaneity as possible.

It gives him more variability from which to lead and be dominant. Slight step-by-step leadership keeps the man responsible for EVERYTHING sexual.

And a safe word? I know all the good and valid reasons for it in the BDSM community. But why would a safe word be required if there is total trust?

The safe word makes everything “safe,” and where’s the vulnerability in that?

I’m all for dominance and submission of course. It’s the full expression of complete trust and complementary roles between two people.

But leather and whips do not make a dominant.

I’m all for bondage, but a true dominant would make sure the woman would have no clue that anything is going to happen. This is one thing that the man in the book “9 1/2 Weeks” was very good at; he used common household items which were brought forth at the appropriate time within the scene.

That brings up another point. BDSM makes everything a scene. That makes sexuality episodic. A Masterful-Lover understands that everything is sex.

And don’t even get me started on the swinger community.

They couldn’t care less about being better lovers. They are horny people focused solely on hooking up. That does not make them “sexual” people. Going for quantity with no regard to connection and vulnerability is not “sexual.”

What you need to be able to do is create a high-level connection with your woman.

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There must be trust. There must be vulnerability .

And through all of that your quiet, but powerful dominance. And of course your fearless leadership.

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Sometimes she will call you instead of text.

ugh.

The nerve of her! 😉

When this happens, it is important you stop this behavior dead in it’s tracks.

Why do I say this?

Because, to me, there’s no reason to have a verbal conversation UNTIL you are in the same room together.

Let me explain a bit more…

The more you tell her (in-between seeing her in person), the more you’re likely to repel her.

The only time you should expand your conversation (after meeting her in person the first time) is…

When you’re sitting right next to her the next time.

If you start telling her too much about you…

If you seem “too excited” to see her…

She won’t feel a sense of URGENCY to get together with you

And… It’ll take FOREVER for that to happen.

(If it ever does.)

So, when you see the call coming in, don’t answer and let it go to voice mail.

Then, listen to the message and respond via text. 🙂

Obviously, if you missed the call and you have a voice mail from her you would do the same thing.

Letting it go to voice mail will make you seem unavailable.

(which is exactly what you want to be)

So if her message is…

Her: Hey Brian, It’s Karen from the other night. I’m just calling to see what you’re up to.

You simply text your response and get to the point.

Your text: So, I suppose you want to get together?

By texting her your reply you will be conveying that this is how you communicate…

And…

She will probably switch to it, INSTEAD OF calling you.

Mission accomplished.

Try it and let me know what happens.

Ok, so you might be reading this right now, and you’re probably wondering…

“What’s The Best Way For Me to REALLY Learn This Stuff?”

Hey, I’m glad you asked.

Success with women really comes down to learning a new way to think about women, then combining it with the actual techniques that cause women to feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION.

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…to get it.

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It’s the best investment you can make in your dating life, period… end of story.

Bottom line: Go get your copy.

And I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

ttys

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There are some AMAZING emails this time around…

There’s one that you MUST READ NOW about how women can smell “Wussy” on a guy from miles away… an email from a WOMAN whose comments will blow you away… plus a whole lot more.

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Let’s get into today’s reader mailbag…

Q.I’m finally starting to get it. It took a long time (lots of e-mails read, e-book read, listened, and seminar attended), but one night it just clicked, and I’m now starting to get some e-mail/phone numbers. And I’m getting the tea dates going.

I had one amazing realization today – whenever I don’t get an initial meeting after getting the e-mail, I don’t do what i used to which is get depressed, find fault in myself, and figure I’ll never get anybody.

Now, since I’m working on this next step of getting the initial meeting, I just see it as a recipe. Maybe with girl A I was too C and not enough F. Maybe with girl B I’m not making her feel comfortable enough of meeting at my place.

I realized that with practice I’ll get the recipe right and be able to turn any e-mail into an initial date. That new mindset has taken a long time to get to and it’s mostly due to your info. Thanks!

Question: Tonight’s first date went really well! I was almost too comfortable and was totally calm and cool. Poked fun at her, never answered any questions directly, and I didn’t sit around worrying about whether or not she liked me. I could almost tangibly feel the attraction being amplified!

But I found out during the date that she’s a single mom. Now, I, personally, don’t like to date single moms for various reasons – not even for a one-night stand. (A lot of guys disagree and that’s cool – this is my own thing).

Could you suggest a way to ask this prior to the first date? Perhaps it’s my own limiting belief, but it seems that by asking this, I’m implying that I’m looking at her as possible long-term material.

Thanks a lot and everybody reading this.

R.

A. Well, thanks for the shameless advertising plug, R. I really appreciate it. OK, you’ve asked a very interesting question. It’s interesting not because of the content of the actual question… but more because of what it says about you and what you’re thinking.

When you say, “Can you tell me how to ask a woman if she has kids before a first date?” it implies that you think that there’s something wrong with just coming out and asking it.

It’s like you’re saying, “Well, I know that I can’t just ask her if she has kids… so can you tell me some cool trick to get her to spill it without me having to ask?”. Well guess what? THIS IS A PROBLEM. And here’s why:

You Should NEVER Use “Tricks” To Learn More About A Woman
If you want to know something about a woman… including whether or not she has kids… then you need to come right out at CONFIDENTLY ASK.

Say “Hey, do you have any kids?”. If she says, “Yes”, then say, “Great. I’m really looking for a woman who doesn’t have any kids, but we can be friends.”

Let’s use a different example. Let’s say you’ve placed a personal ad online. Let’s say that a cute woman replies. Let’s say that she sends you a picture… but it only shows her face… and you’re only interested in women who are slim.

Now, you probably would write to me and ask me to give you some slick way to get her to share how much she weighs with you without having to ask. WRONG IDEA. Just email her and say, “Hey, how tall are you and how much do you weigh? I really prefer women who are slim. Let me know…” That’s it.

Think about it. If she is slim, she’ll tell you, and probably be glad that you were up front with her and direct. If she isn’t slim, she’ll be glad you told her now and didn’t waste her time. (By the way… it’s not ok to say, “Hey, I really hate fat chicks… so tell me now, because if you’re fat I’m going to bail…”. That’s not cool.)

I think that your problem is probably rooted in insecurity, and caring too much what other people think of you.

If you act like an adult and expect others to act like adults, you’ll do well with women. If you pussy-foot around the issue (a perfect term for you and this) you’ll wind up trying to do things that waste every-one’s time. If you’re up front, direct, and not caring what other people think of you, then you’re going to make women respond more powerfully. Guaranteed.

Oh, and great job getting your act together with women. You’re doing very well, keep it up.

And feel free to promote my materials anytime you want in the future.

Q.***Comment From A Woman***

I’ve been reading your email newsletters…not because I’m a male needing advice, but because I am a female who likes to get insight into what men are thinking! I’ll have to say that what you are telling these guys is right on target.

I have a girlfriend who is a perfect 10, but she has the worst luck with men. Know why? They are too nice to her! I was sitting out by the pool with her this past weekend, and listening to her talk about the latest guy she’s dating.

He’s cute, attentive, sweet, thoughtful, generous, funny, and a tiger in bed!! But, she told me that he isn’t the one. I asked her why, and this is exactly what she said, “He’s too agreeable”.

“Everything I say is ok with him…anything I want to do, go, or think is OK with him. I’m getting bored. He doesn’t have enough personality for me. He’s always smiling, and my thirteen year old daughter even says he’s a wuss for being so nice all the time. I want a man who’s a challenge.”

Now, this woman sees this other guy from time to time, and she’d drop what she’s doing and drive 6 hours just to spend one night with him! But that guy doesn’t call regularly and he treats her poorly, but she’d give her first born child to have him!

No, it doesn’t make sense, but that is the way a lot of Number 10 women are. And if a guy really wants a 10, your techniques would work like a charm. Just warn these guys that 10’s are very difficult women to deal with, and they are used to having every guy’s attention, so they need to keep the game up to keep her from straying.

I wish guys would see that the 10’s, although they are pretty to look at, aren’t always worth the effort. My friends who are 5’s would treat men better, if they could get their attention.

Me? I’m about a 7-8 but I use your techniques on men, and they work quite well. A year ago, I was dating 4-5 men at time. The one guy that I cared the least about and brushed off time and again, is the one I’m dating all the time now!

He just hung in there no matter how many dates I cancelled or even if I told him I had another date! I even told him I was dating lots of other men!

But, he just hung in there, and I got tired of the others, and now I only date him, and we’re happy! Oh, I do still give him a challenge! I am not always available, and I don’t call him often, nor email him all the time, and when he goes out of town on work, I don’t get all jealous and worry.

I don’t have to worry. He can’t wait to get back to me! He cooks for me and treats me like a Queen.

So…tell those guys this little secret about women. The 10’s love it when you are a challenge, and they may end up with a 10, but remember that those women can be the most difficult. Give the lower numbers a chance sometimes, and they will find a devoted mate!

Later…

K in SC

A. Amen, sister. Preach it.

You gotta love honest women. And you’ve laid it out for everyone to see. I wish all men had an older sister like you who could tell them how it is from an early age…

But, alas, we do not.

I’m going to go read your email again, because it’s gold.

Send a picture next time. I promise that I’ll never call you all the time, and I’ll never tolerate you canceling anything on me. (Of course, then you’d fall in love with me, and I’d have to break your heart.)

What a life.

Q.I must say kudos to you for creating a new man out of me. Let me explain myself. I ordered your ebook a while ago and have been getting your newsletter for the better part of a year. However, only recently, I decided enough is enough.

I started putting what I read into action to see what happens. Of course, it really helps that I’m a well-built muscular tall, dark and handsome man (Lol). Ain’t that what the ladies are looking for? To clarify in terms of specs, I’m 5’11”, of South Indian origin, and I’ve been a recreational bodybuilder for going on 14 years now.

The nightclub I like to frequent to dance in has a lot of gorgeous women, several easily 9’s and 10’s. Well, the other night, I approached a girl who was without a doubt at least a 10. She was acting very coy and detached to anybody but the crowd of guys and girls she was with.

Since she was wearing a cabbie-style hat, I came up to her and said, “Hey, I like your hat.” She smiled and said, “Thanks” but still was kind of stuck up. So, then, I said, “Let me guess, you’re a taxi-driver.” She looked at me with a “there’s NO way you just said that to me” shocked expression on her face but then, she instantly warmed up to me and replied with a big smile on her face, “No, I’ll bet you are though.”

Well, Dave, I’m a doctor and I’m sure it helped for her to hear that but the rest of the night, she was rubbing up against me and holding me tight, even grinding with me on the dance floor. What’s even more surprising is that her boyfriend was part of the crowd and since I introduced myself to the rest of the group, he was cool with me hanging with them.

I’m willing to bet that if he had not been there, she would have tried to kiss me and probably even make out with me.Thank you.

Now I apologize for such a long account but I did want to demonstrate the scenario carefully if anyone can benefit from it. My question to you is quite simply this:

Why is it that some women seem totally enamored in person and act like they want to go out but then never return your phone calls or initiate calls themselves? I mean, I can tell that they are not faking their interest in me and so, what happens once they leave from my presence?

T.M. Michigan

A. What’s that, T.M.? You mean to tell me that even tall, dark, and handsome body-builder guys need help, too? LOL…

It’s funny, because most guys don’t realize that even good-looking guys have all the same challenges with women… I mean, it certainly doesn’t HURT to be a handsome guy, but women do all the same things, no matter what a guy looks like.

Back to your question. Here’s the whole deal, man:

SHOCKER: Many Attractive Women Have Extremely Low Self-Esteem
Therefore, here’s what you need to know: Many (if not most) of these really attractive women are really just out to get attention. In other words, they’re not looking to meet a good guy… they’re not looking to find someone who will treat them well… they’re not looking for love.

They’re looking to fill an empty part of their self-image, and attention makes them feel good. Some women actually enjoy getting attention from guys, then acting like they don’t like it.

Hey, I never said women made sense…

Have you ever known a woman who wears low-cut blouses, then complains because guys only look at her breasts while talking to her? Duh. If a woman complains about something like this to me, I’ll say something like, “You know, now that you mention it… are those real?”

It’s crazy, but here are a few things to remember…

A woman will behave DIFFERENTLY according to her mood. If she’s happy when she’s with you, then she might act like she’s enjoying herself. If you call the next day and she’s depressed because she still has no self-esteem, then she’s probably not going to call you.

ATTRACTION is the key. You must realize that if you dial up the attraction by creating Sexual Tension, etc. then you’ll have a much stronger chance of seeing her again.
DON’T CHASE. When you talk to her again, make sure you don’t communicate that you need anything… especially attention or approval.
Lose the need to have every woman like you. One big weakness that most men have is a woman who won’t call back. But remember, women are the same way. Read the email at the beginning of this newsletter from the attractive woman for details.
You always have options. When you know how to meet women anytime you want, then it doesn’t matter what happens in a particular situation. And if it doesn’t matter, women can sense it. This is a very attractive quality.

Q.Here are some of my favorite lines I use:

If I happen to get a phone call while I’m around a girl I’ve been talking to, Ill bring her up in the conversation w/ whoever called me, making some teasing comment about her loud enough for her to hear.

She’ll usually give me a face, or flip me off…so then I say to my friend on the phone, “yea, she likes me.” So simple, yet they eat it up! I’ll tell girls who are walking behind me to stop following me because I’m getting that stalker vibe from them…and if they want to look at my ass that bad, they can take a snapshot of it for $4.99…as long as it’s for their personal enjoyment and not to show off to their friends.

I also like to put a price on my time or presence. For instance, I’ll be talking to a girl for a little bit, then I’ll look down at my watch and say, “Okay, I talked to you for two minutes, and I let you shake my hand…that’ll be twenty dollars, tip not included”.

Then I’ll say that I really have to get going, and demand their phone number so I can “collect my money on a more convenient date.” I love this way of communication…it makes girls attracted to you, and it’s so much more fun than the normal boring stuff.

Now, a quick question. First off, I loved your last Dating Tip…about Sexual Tension. One of your best emails.

But I have a question about eye contact…do you ever have to watch for when it’s appropriate? An example would be last week when I was in a club. I was standing, and I turned around to face a cute girl who I immediately locked eyes with. She wasn’t going anywhere, she was just standing.

But we were only about a foot away from each other looking directly into each others eyes. I wasn’t even going to try to talk to her, because it was too noisy.

But I didn’t want to just stand there, a foot away from her face, just staring, ’cause I figured I would seem like a weirdo…so I just walked past her. What would you say to do in situations like this?

Are there times when your rule about eye contact (not looking away until she does) isn’t appropriate? Is proximity to the girl your eye-locked with an issue?

Thanx again

A. Well, another great question… And more shameless advertising for my Advanced Series. What a great combination.

But I digress… Yes, let’s talk about eye contact… what to do after you’ve made it… and a larger principle that’s at stake here. Here’s the deal:

There Are 5 Signals That INSTANTLY Tell A Woman You’re A “Wuss”
These are dead giveaways to a woman that tell her you’re not worth her time.They are instant ATTRACTION KILLERS that leave you dead in the water every time, including:

Inability to maintain eye contact
Slumped, submissive posture
Fidgeting nervously
Giving away power
Looking for attention and approval from others
Of course, there are quite a few more examples of other little things that women look for… to make quick decisions about what kind of man you are… and instantly know whether or not you are worthy of a second thought.

Now, as you’ve heard me say a million times, these decisions all happen on a subconscious level. Women don’t look at a man, then say to a friend, “Well, he maintained eye contact when I first looked at him, then he held his head up high in a dominant posture… so I’m going to give him a chance”.

It’s an instant feeling that women get. They use these little body language cues to instantly size you up, then respond instantly.

Now, you’re asking about a particular facet of eye contact… specifically, when you’re standing one foot away from her and it happens.

Your question leads me to believe that you think things must be different if you’re close to a woman… as if the rules should change if she’s closer than 4.35234 feet. If anything, it takes more composure and inner strength to look a woman in the eyes if she’s standing a foot away.

In this case it’s even more important to not look away, and try saying, “I just couldn’t help noticing you… {pause}… staring at me…” That’s funny. Or say, “Do you always maintain such strong eye contact? Or only with guys like me that you can’t help it with?”

The Bottom Line: Doing ANYTHING Is Better Than Doing NOTHING
I mean, you don’t even have to expend the energy to walk over and start a conversation. Even “Hi” is better than walking away.

Plus: once you get over your remaining fear of the unknown, and you realize that you’re in control of your life and your results, you’ll begin to realize that situations like these are great opportunities… which reminds me of something.

I honestly believe that fear of the unknown is one of the biggest obstacles that guys face with women. It may sound silly, but most guys who are afraid to approach women really don’t know exactly WHAT they’re afraid of.

All they know is that they have an instant fear come up whenever they think of walking up to a woman they don’t know and talking to her.

Of course, a fear of the unknown sounds like an easy thing to fix. I mean, just realize that you don’t even know what you’re afraid of, and it should go away, right?

Sounds good, but it’s wrong. The fact is that this is a complex problem. I mean, I’ve met guys who have gone to therapy for years to get over fears… and it didn’t work.

Now, I’m not a therapist or psychologist… but I do know one thing…

I Had This Very Same Fear… So I KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE
But the really weird part is that the thing that helped me get over it wasn’t anything that I expected. What helped me get past it, and helped me to start approaching women and getting emails and numbers from women I didn’t know, was simply this:

Understanding what was going on… and then knowing exactly what to do in each situation.

The problem that I had in the past was that I JUST DIDN’T GET IT with women. I didn’t understand what made them feel attraction for one guy while feeling nothing or even like running away from another guy.

Now that I do get it, I have to say that it’s pretty damn interesting. But it’s not at all what I would have expected. In fact, it took me a couple of years of trying to figure it out to actually begin to really understand how and why women feel that instant and magical ATTRACTION response for some guys… while most guys go their whole lives without women even noticing them.

Once I Learned About ATTRACTION, Everything Changed For Me
In this Mailbag, quite a few guys wrote in who have had the same experience this week with my Advanced Series. They all watched it, learned about CREATING ATTRACTION, then had a light bulb come on in their heads.

Before they spent the 12+ hours going through the program they didn’t get it. After they went through the program they DID get it.

A lot of guys write in to say that “It just clicked all of a sudden” or “I had a huge Ah-Ha when I went through the program.” You’ll also notice that most of the guys who make these comments have read this newsletter for quite awhile as well.

What I’m trying to say is that my Advanced Series will totally change the way you see things… and therefore totally change your results with women.

It’s taken me literally years to figure all of this stuff out, and I can honestly say that it’s nothing like the other books and programs that are available.

PLUS: As Always, My Famous TRY IT RISK-FREE Offer Still Stands
It’s simple… Go watch the program. You can try it risk free. Really. If you don’t like it, I’ll refund your money. All the details are below:

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You can barely switch on the TV these days or read the news without hearing another story about some guy accused of sexual harassment.

It’s gotten to the point where a lot of men are afraid to even look at a woman now for fear of being labeled a creep.

And it’s easy to fall into this trap…

To think you can’t flirt with and seduce women anymore.

That you’ll be looked at as some kind of sexual predator.

But here’s the truth that isn’t really being talked about:

Women are only calling out men who they didn’t feel any kind of sexual attraction to…

Guys like Harvey Weinstein and other power players who used their influence to bargain for sex.

And that’s the lesson here.

If a woman sleeps with you because she feels obligated… or only because she’s getting something from you…

She’ll see you as a creep or loser and feel disgusted by you.

BUT when you know how to trigger sexual arousal so deep she feels it in her bones…

Not only will she not mind when you have your way with her…

She’ll usually throw herself at you so hard it’ll look like she’s the one molesting you.

And with the current climate of #metoo and sexual harassment, you NEED to know this.

Because if you don’t, you never know when some girl will publicly call you out as a pervert and ruin your reputation.

The changing roles of men and women over the last 50 years has left men confused and bewildered.

They have become afraid of their own masculinity and seek much of their validation from their intimate relationships with women.

This is a recipe for disaster.

The divorce rate is skyrocketing while the marriage rate plummets.

Women ask: where have all of the good men gone?

And now we have a new generation on “Incels” popping up.

These guys have given up on relationships with women, and they’re disenfranchised and dangerous.

Not good.

All of this is an aspect of the Nice Guy phenomenon

Most of men who join our group admit to suffering from some degree of Nice-Guy-itis.

And the ones that don’t admit to it are lying.

That’s why I had to create this group – to cure Nice Guy-itis.

You have a lot of raw male potential lurking under your veneer of learned Nice Guy behaviors.

I see it as my job to bring it out of you.

A lot of you guys are good men, who through social programming, have learned to act the part of the “Nice Guy.”

But you have a lot more depth and drive than you realize.

You have the potential to be Great Lovers, Boyfriends and Husbands just like All Men Are Meant To Be By Mother Nature!

In this group we will map a pathway to a more authentic you and then onward to the man you wish to be, along with all of the pleasures that accompany being that kind of man.

It is a boot camp that puts you in touch with REALITY. And when that happens, you’ll find that you are more powerful than you ever thought.

And never again worry about doing anything that makes girls think you’re creepy!

Click ‘Sign Up’ Button at the top right corner of the Page!

You might feel bad wanting to do something that you know doesn’t serve you well… like pursuing the ladies… instead of allowing them to pursue you. 🙂

In Rick Warren’s book, “The Purpose Driven Life,” there is this outline
about temptation.

If you’re feeling bad about being tempted to do something you’re not supposed to do like… reach out to her, get back into that bad relationship or simply pursue again, you are not alone.

The road to an extraordinary life is filled with roadblocks.

Many of you are afraid and ashamed by being tempted, feeling guilty that you aren’t BEYOND temptation.

Basically, you think that feeling tempted is a bad thing, that it shows weakness.

Guess what?

It doesn’t.

It’s actually an opportunity for you to grow.

Here’s what I mean:

Every time you choose to NOT do something, you are growing in character.

In fact, you will grow the MOST when you are tempted.

Character development always involves a choice, and temptation provides
that opportunity.

Think about it this way…

It takes no character to NOT pursue chicks who are pursuing YOU.

You can’t claim to be strong with chicks if you’ve never been tempted to be weak with them.

Integrity is built by defeating the temptation.

Every time you defeat it, you become more powerful.

Temptation always follows the same path:

– Want

“I need it now! It’ll be great and make me feel better.”

– Doubt

“Is it really wrong? Was it really meant for
another time, another type of guy or some other particular situation? Isn’t it good to be happy?”

– Deception

“I can get away with it. No one will ever know. It’ll solve my problem. Besides, everyone else is doing it. It’s only a little reaching out.” But a little reaching out is like being a little pregnant…

– Disobedience

What began as an idea morphs into behavior. You give in to whatever got your attention. You believe the lies your ego tells you and fall into the trap.

How do you defeat it?

– Refuse to be intimidated

Temptation is a sign that your ego is fighting for survival. You can’t keep your ego from suggesting thoughts, but you can choose not to dwell or act on them. Your ego will do anything to save itself.

– Recognize your pattern of temptation

There are going to be certain situations where you’re more vulnerable than others. It may be when you’re tired, lonely, bored, depressed or under stress.
It may be when you’ve been hurt or angry or worried, or even after a big success. Identify your particular pattern of temptation and prepare for these situations.

– Request help

You need support in times of temptation, so reach out to friends or someone
like me.

– Refocus your attention

Temptation begins by capturing your attention. What gets your attention arouses your emotions. Then your emotions activate your behavior, and you act on what you felt.

Since it always begins with a thought, the quickest way to neutralize its allure is to turn your attention to something else.

Don’t fight the thought, just change the channel of your mind and get interested in another idea.

– Reveal your struggle to others

Join a support group or form your own.

– Believe… and resist your ego

Accept what I tell you as the truth.

If you are a believer, your ego can’t force you to do anything.

It can only suggest.

Don’t argue with it.

Don’t say, “I’m not going to reach out.”

Instead say, “I’m on the right path.”

You can’t bluff your ego with logic or opinion either, but you CAN use the one weapon that it fears most…

…THE TRUTH!

You already have enough power within you to defeat any temptation that comes your way.

Temptation doesn’t exist outside of you.

The truth is that it always begins within you.

The battle is won or lost in your mind first.

This was deep.

Ok, so you might be reading this right now, and you’re probably wondering…

“What’s The Best Way For Me to REALLY Learn This Stuff?”

Hey, I’m glad you asked.

Success with women really comes down to learning a new way to think about women, then combining it with the actual techniques that cause women to feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION.

If you’re ready for SUPER success with women, then I highly recommend that you go download my online ebook “Attract Hotter Women.“

It’s JAM PACKED with ideas that you can learn and use starting TONIGHT. You can go download it right now and be reading it within just a few minutes.

Download it here:

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…to get it.

This material isn’t taught anywhere else.

It’s the best investment you can make in your dating life, period… end of story.

Bottom line: Go get your copy.

And I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

ttys

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Did you know one of the most searched-for categories of porn is MILFs?

It’s true.

Tons of young men have a fantasy of being with an older woman.

But there’s just as many girls (if not more) who want to experience what it’s like to be with an older man.

Problem is, most older guys don’t have a clue how to make this go down – leaving it an unfulfilled fantasy for most young women.

One of the biggest mistakes I see older guys make… is putting a younger woman on a pedestal.

They’re so enamored with her youth and beauty, they treat her like her value is through the roof.

But this is a huge turn-off for young women.

Part of the appeal of an older man is that he’s experienced, accomplished and independent.

So if he bends over backwards trying to please some girl half his age who he barely knows… he communicates that he’s none of these things.

It’s like popping a pin in the balloon of any sexual attraction she may have felt.

What you want to do instead is feed into her fantasy that you’re more powerful and important than she is…

Because deep down, she wants to feel like she was lucky that you chose her.

To do that, you can’t act like every other horny old dog that’s impressed by her sweet, sweet body.

No, you need to be different.

You need to frame yourself as the prize who she needs to win over.

Learn a new way to think about women, and combine it with the actual techniques that cause women to feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION.

One simple way to do this is by implying she’s too young for you.

By making it seem like she’s too immature or inexperienced for your standards, it completely flips the script.

She’s used to guys trying to prove why they are good enough for her, thus giving her all the power.

But when you disqualify her for being too young, her ego will kick in and she’ll start trying to prove herself to you.

And once she begins chasing you like this, she’ll convince herself it must be because she likes you.

The more she convinces herself that she likes you, the more she’ll actually want you.

This is how you separate yourself from the herd and become her very first older man experience.

Click here to learn more…

P.S. The size that matters …

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In the nightlife scene, there’s typically 5 “types” of guys.

When women see you for the first time, they instantly categorize you and decide which type you are.

And once you get “typed”, that’s it – she’s not gonna change her mind about you, it’s locked in.

Here are the types:

– The “nice guy” she will talk to for a few minutes and then move on

– The “warm up guy” – her first conversation of the night – good for free drinks and compliments to warm her up for the next guy

– The douchebag type of guy she will reject (unless she gets super drunk, then she might sleep with him and regret it)

– The creepy type of guy she stays far, far away from

– The “prize” type of guy that she will approach (even if she’s nervous or she thinks girls are not supposed to approach guys first)

Obviously, you want to be the “prize” type of guy, and this video will show you how:

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FYI – it’s NOT about being super smooth, confident or “alpha”… it’s actually the complete opposite.

Enjoy

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